Hey there, Amazing Woman!
Let’s take a moment to celebrate something truly magical: the incredible potential you hold to achieve extraordinary things! At Lola, we believe in your power wholeheartedly. But here’s the thing—sometimes, the biggest obstacles aren’t out in the world; they’re the ones we create in our own minds. Often, the negative things said about us can stick with us, shaping our self-perception. But choosing to believe in these doubts is more about battling our inner critic than any external factor.
I’m talking about those sneaky little critical voices in our heads, also known as limiting beliefs. They are simply thoughts, packed with doubts and fears that can hold you back from stepping into the greatness you’re destined for. But guess what? You have the tools to shatter those beliefs and unlock the success that’s been waiting for you all along. What you believe about yourself shapes your actions and achievements. Let’s dive in and discover how to conquer these limiting beliefs and embrace your full potential!
What Are Limiting Beliefs? Let’s Break It Down
Limiting beliefs are like invisible walls you build around yourself. They’re those nagging doubts and fears that whisper, “You can’t do this”, You need all the answers before going forward”, or “This isn’t for you.” Often, these beliefs stem from past experiences where things didn’t go as planned, societal pressures that make you feel less than, you are afraid of making mistakes or simply the fear of stepping out of your comfort zone. These beliefs aren’t just idle thoughts—they become the invisible script that guides your actions and defines your achievements. Whatever you hold to be true about yourself will dictate the choices you make and the success you achieve.
But don’t worry—this article will guide you on exactly how to dismantle those beliefs and step boldly into your greatness!
Our Journey: From Doubts to Triumph
Before starting Lola, we were partners in a different business. And let’s be honest, one major challenge we faced was a lack of self-confidence or let’s face it, imposter syndrome. We had fantastic ideas and projects in the pipeline, but when it came time to share them with the world, we often found ourselves battling inner doubts. Frequently, it was one of us, the main creator, who struggled the most with these feelings.
Over time, we noticed this pattern and learned to support each other through these moments of self-doubt. Our friendship and partnership grew stronger as we tackled these inner battles together. We share more about how our partnership shaped our journey in the post Friendship + Business: The Do’s and Don’ts of Starting a Business Together, but for now, let’s focus on how you can shake off all those limiting beliefs—whether they came from yourself or others. It’s time to take control and rewrite your story, crafting a belief system that empowers you instead of holding you back.
Recognizing the Common Culprits
Let’s get real—chances are you’ve encountered these beliefs at some point in your life. Do any of these sound familiar?
- “I’m not good enough.”
- “I don’t deserve success.”
- “I’m not experienced enough.”
- “Success is for others, not for me.”
- “I need all the answers before going forward.”
These beliefs are like uninvited guests at your party of life. They show up unannounced and hang around far too long. But guess what? You have the power to show them the door and send them packing!
How to Spot Your Limiting Beliefs
The first step to overcoming these limiting beliefs is to recognize them. This can be tricky because these thoughts often feel like they’re a part of who you are. But when you take a moment to listen to your inner dialogue, you can start to spot those negative thoughts that pop up whenever you think about pursuing your dreams. Limiting beliefs that hold you back need to be urgently overwritten. By identifying them, you can begin to change how they influence your actions and achievements.
A Simple Exercise to Get Started
- Write down your goals. What do you really want to achieve? Is it starting your own business, launching a new project, or simply taking a bold step forward in your life?
- Notice the doubts. As you think about these goals, pay attention to any negative thoughts that arise. Maybe it’s a voice saying, “Who are you to do this?” or “What if you fail?”
- Identify the belief behind the doubt. Dig a little deeper. What’s the underlying belief that’s fueling this doubt? It might be something like, “I’m not smart enough” or “I don’t have what it takes.”
By putting these thoughts on paper, you’re already taking the first step toward reclaiming your power. You’ve got this!
Turning the Tables: Strategies to Overcome Limiting Beliefs
Now that you’ve identified these beliefs, it’s time to challenge and rewrite them. Here’s how:
1. Affirmations and Positive Self-Talk: Your New Best Friends
Affirmations are like a magical script you can use to rewrite your mental narrative. Instead of letting negative thoughts take charge, create positive affirmations that reflect your true potential. For instance, if you’ve been telling yourself, “I’m not good enough,” flip it to, “I am more than enough, and I’m capable of amazing things.” Repeat these affirmations daily, especially when those old doubts try to creep back in. Over time, these positive messages will start to replace the limiting beliefs with a mindset that empowers you.
2. Visualization: See Your Success Before It Happens
Visualization is like daydreaming with a purpose. When you visualize your success, you’re not just imagining a happy ending—you’re training your brain to believe it’s possible. Picture yourself achieving your goals, and more importantly, focus on how it feels. The joy, the pride, the sense of accomplishment—let yourself bask in those emotions as if they’re happening right now. This practice boosts your confidence and brings your goals within reach.
3. Surround Yourself with Positivity: Find Your Tribe
We’ve all heard the saying, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” It’s true—the company you keep matters. Surround yourself with people who believe in you, who inspire you, and who encourage you to push past your limits. That’s why we created the Lola Thrives tribe—a space where like-minded women come together to support each other’s journeys. Whether you need a pep talk, some advice, or just someone to cheer you on, your tribe is here for you.
4. Continuous Learning: Keep Growing, Keep Thriving
One of the best ways to overcome limiting beliefs is to keep learning and growing. The more knowledge and skills you acquire, the more confident you’ll feel in your abilities. Attend workshops, read books, take courses—anything that helps you expand your horizons. Not only will this make you more capable, but it will also reinforce the belief that you’re always evolving and getting better.
Embrace Your Power and Define Your Success
Here’s the truth, beautiful soul: You are in control of your own success. By confronting and overcoming your limiting beliefs, you’re opening up a world of possibilities that might have seemed out of reach before. This journey isn’t always easy, but it’s worth every step because it leads to a life where you are truly thriving—where your potential is fully realized, and your dreams are within your grasp.
Your Story Matters: Share It with Us
We believe in the power of shared experiences. Your journey, with all its highs and lows, is a story that can inspire others. By sharing your challenges and triumphs with the Lola Thrives community, you’re not only celebrating your own growth but also lighting the way for another woman to overcome her own limiting beliefs. So, don’t hold back—your story is a beacon of hope and a reminder that we’re all in this together.
Let’s continue to lift each other up, break down barriers, and thrive in every sense of the word. Here’s to your limitless potential!
Love,
Lola
Empowered together, thriving forever.